The Fear, The Life and You

Fear is not an unknown entity to all of us. We have fear of losing, fear of future, fear of failure and sometimes fear of fear also :-)

I will not try to remove that fear from the roots but I am very much interested to redefine it for simplicity and better life perspective.

In most of the cases the fear gets worse when we don’t act on the factors that stimulate the fear within us.

So the best medicine of fear is “Act today so that you are not afraid of tomorrow”.

Exam fear, if we are prepared and if we can prepare better, why not to prepare ourselves today.

Presentation fear, the audience is not going to kill us if we are not making a good presentation but we are afraid because we are unprepared J why are you going unprepared?

Fear of lenders, can’t we prepare a schedule of payments to make sure we are on time? Or even if we are going to miss the dates of payment, it’s good to communicate and reschedule the payments and remove the fear.

Fear of not meeting expectations, did you set the expectations right at the other end? Did you communicated well to the person who expected something from you?

Fear of Child from the Parent, Why the child can be honest to the parent about their mistakes, no one would be unhappy if we show our honesty towards mistakes. The parents should be honest and transparent with their children so they inspire the love of parent and child, fear at either end would harm the relationship. Neither parent nor the child would prefer to do injustice to each other. So why to be afraid of being honest?

Fear of Losing, when we are afraid of losing, either we have a lack of confidence or we are always expecting a win, let me ask you this, can anyone win always? Then why there is a fear of loss?


We have to bring our confidence and positivity at its peak level so that one or two loses or few more should not let us down, keep moving and have courage to face the loss.  Winning is not important, it’s important that how we play the game of life, living with fear would certainly ruin the joy of life.

If we are ready, prepared and confident today, we can make this “Fear” an unknown entity tomorrow.  Even if we are not prepared, not ready, less confident, no worries please.

Let’s accept the situation with courage and prepare ourselves next time. Fear should not kill us; we have to kill the fear.

An Interview with Life

I would like to present some of the glimpse of my recent interview with Life

Life : What do you expect from me?
Me : Oh a lot.

Life : Good, describe few so I can give you some.

Me : Three things at least, 1. Price 2. Popularity 3. Peace

Life : great, So how soon you want the Price ( Money )?

Me : hmm very smart, As soon as possible?

Life : Ok and then, who and how will you use it?

Me : simple, will spend, save and make more money for me and family?

Life : And then?

Me : then what? I will soon become popular because of my money?

Life : So you believe money can make you popular? Have you heard about Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi, Sardar Vallabh bhai patel, George Washington, Thomas Alva Edison?

Me : Yes great personalities. They are remembered now and forever.

Life : Yes Me too remember them because they lived the best of the life ever, I asked the same question from them that I asked you and the answer was different.

Me : Hmm so you have been asking this question  to all, well what was their answer?

Life: will tell you later, so what next after popularity?

Me : Oh nice question, I will be a Happy person, I will get Peace then after.
Life : I don’t think so, remember Lady Diana ( wife of prince Charles, wasn’t she popular ) and how she died in lack of peace in life? Gurudutt ( the great indian actor), Meena Kumari ( great indian actress) All of them had money and popularity but they didn’t had peace in life.

Me : Oh my god and I thought money and popularity can give me a peace in life.

Life : No my child, that is wrong perception.

Me : Then what should I do to get the peace?

Life : You know the answer, peace is within you and in your activities.

Me: But what do I do to get the peace? I Don’t understand

Life: Ok let me ask you simple thing? Have you ever served water to some one ? How do you feel then?

Me: I feel good to give but giving is the peace?

Life: Nope the joy of giving and doing something for someone is peace and doing an act that could benefit a group of living being is peace.

Me: So I should do social service? Then when should I care for my family?

Life: Your family will ask only what you give them, if you give less they expect less if you give more, they expect more. Now it up to you that you are giving more money to them or giving more happiness to them. Try to give them both and see where they are happy. With money or with moments of happiness?
Exercise: Take family to a super mall, do lot of shopping, then eat in expensive cuisine, watch movie in expensive theater, come back home and keep a note of level of happiness.

Then next time take them to a simple park or just a peaceful place, talk a lot about good old days, take their opinion on past and future, plan something for future together ( after retirement life etc ) and then note the level of happiness. Make sure you do it free flow without planning anything, just let the moment go by and you and family can enjoy it.

No need to tell me where you found the more happiness.. You know the answer.
Me : Hmm will try this, probably I know what you mean.

Life: I have given meaning to everyone’s life, there is a purpose behind living, when you know it then we might not have to schedule interview again.

Me : But one last thing, shouldn’t I earn money then?

Life : You can but create a wealth where everyone benefits. Remember God has made you capable to earn the money because there are various who are not fortunate to earn like you do.
Anyway, thanks for your time, God Bless You.