The joy of appreciating people around you

The joy of appreciating people around you. 

I love it when people appreciate my work, character or attitude. You must love the same.

Do you do the same with people around you?

When was the last time you appreciated your parents, your boss, your friend or your care taker?

I consider appreciation as a magic stick. Once its rolled on the people, it works like a wonder.
It gives a sense of satisfaction to the other and it gives a joy to self for appreciating others on their hard work.

I remember the instance from the movie Munnabhai MBBS, The actor Munnabhai ( Sanjay Dutt) appreciated the old cleaning guy at hospital with Jaadu ki Jhappi ( a Magical Hug )

Appreciating people is not difficult but we often either forget it

Or we are shy of doing it

Or we are too busy to do it

Or we are too big to appreciate the small act J

Let me quickly describe the benefits of appreciating people around us.

1. We improve our relationship with the people around us drastically
2. We improve our self-image ahead of others  marginally
3. We increase our happiness index scientifically
4. We earn good Karma holistically
5. We love successfully

So what was your experience when you appreciated other's efforts? 

Express your feelings.

Why Winners only have Plan A?

Why Winners only have Plan A?

Do you aim to do something in your life? Are you sure about it?

What if you don’t achieve it? Do you have Plan B and what if Plan B fails?

If you have Plan B and subsequent plans, I am sorry to say you may not be the winner.

I am not kidding when I am saying this.
The winners have only plan A and they keep working on it till they successfully execute it.
While people of other group (I didn’t want to write losers ) have always Plan A, B, C… and so many.

“Keeping things safe is always a plan to die”.

The winner will never seek the safety but a surety of winning on his plan,

That means “Winners also fail but they never fail to start again”.

The psychiatric or scientific reason for this is, when you work on only one Plan, that means your “Plan A”, you are putting your 100% of mental and physical energy towards it. In other words your Plan A gets 100% of justice from you. If something gets justice of that class, it’s bound to happen some day.

In other case, your energy is scattered across various plans, you are not ready to fall and get up again, so you plan 100 different things to avoid failure, guess what?

Your energy is now not working on one plan but various plans, we have our limitations as a human being, so when we have different plans on hand, we might get little success in all but the joy of 100% success comes only when we achieve 100% of what we wished to achieve.

The questions you should ask to yourself,

What do you wanted to achieve?

Have you justified your Goal today?

Have you inched towards your goal today?

Have you every thought, why the world has few successful people?

Do you believe that successful people are the only qualified or highly deserving people for that success?

If you think that, you might be wrong, successful people are not the only deserving people but they are the only few, who kept working towards their Plan A. while others like you and me kept thinking of Plan B, C and more….

What if Amitabh bachhan would have thought of plan B after his failed attempt to secure a role in Movies? We would have not seen the great actor today?

What if Sachin Tendulkar would have also played Football and tennis as his Plans B and C, we would have not seen the great cricketer today.

In opposite to that Salil Ankola ( a forgotten cricker and actor) had various plans, he failed in cricket so he tried in acting, he failed again and now he is nowhere.

Sabir Bhatia, when he was focused towards innovation, he invented Hotmail and made himself millionaire. Then after he started to work on various products and nothing reached near to his past success. Why? The person was same but the plans were scattered.

Based on examples and experience of mine so far, I strongly believe that if you want to be successful, an achiever, keep working on your primary plan A. your chances of success will be always higher. Believe in your plan and put your 100% towards that.

The Fear, The Life and You

Fear is not an unknown entity to all of us. We have fear of losing, fear of future, fear of failure and sometimes fear of fear also :-)

I will not try to remove that fear from the roots but I am very much interested to redefine it for simplicity and better life perspective.

In most of the cases the fear gets worse when we don’t act on the factors that stimulate the fear within us.

So the best medicine of fear is “Act today so that you are not afraid of tomorrow”.

Exam fear, if we are prepared and if we can prepare better, why not to prepare ourselves today.

Presentation fear, the audience is not going to kill us if we are not making a good presentation but we are afraid because we are unprepared J why are you going unprepared?

Fear of lenders, can’t we prepare a schedule of payments to make sure we are on time? Or even if we are going to miss the dates of payment, it’s good to communicate and reschedule the payments and remove the fear.

Fear of not meeting expectations, did you set the expectations right at the other end? Did you communicated well to the person who expected something from you?

Fear of Child from the Parent, Why the child can be honest to the parent about their mistakes, no one would be unhappy if we show our honesty towards mistakes. The parents should be honest and transparent with their children so they inspire the love of parent and child, fear at either end would harm the relationship. Neither parent nor the child would prefer to do injustice to each other. So why to be afraid of being honest?

Fear of Losing, when we are afraid of losing, either we have a lack of confidence or we are always expecting a win, let me ask you this, can anyone win always? Then why there is a fear of loss?


We have to bring our confidence and positivity at its peak level so that one or two loses or few more should not let us down, keep moving and have courage to face the loss.  Winning is not important, it’s important that how we play the game of life, living with fear would certainly ruin the joy of life.

If we are ready, prepared and confident today, we can make this “Fear” an unknown entity tomorrow.  Even if we are not prepared, not ready, less confident, no worries please.

Let’s accept the situation with courage and prepare ourselves next time. Fear should not kill us; we have to kill the fear.

Decision Making, Difficult or Simple?

Making a decision, right or wrong but they do change lot of things in our life. It’s difficult job but there are scientific ways to make it more systematic and less painful.

Let me describe few to help you

1.    Ask yourself that if your Yes will be more beneficial or your No would be more meaningful for certain decisions.

2.    Calculate the advantages and disadvantages of Saying Yes or Saying No. Put that on paper. so It becomes easier to read and decide if this decision will give more benefits or more problems for you in future.

3.    Put up long term benefits and long term issues on paper based on decision.. what is more important for you.

4.    Is the decision is inline with your passion or your dreams you have been seeing with open eyes, if yes then take a step forward but if its just a timely thing and short term, think twice. Its better to take the pain and run without the decision than taking it and keeping burden of it on your shoulders.

5.    If 1 to 4 seems to be confusing, tell your problem to your nearest friend, tell him to view the situation as he was you and what he would have done if this was the situation.

6.    Don’t keep decision long pending, it hurts when things are not moving and you are ignoring or delaying them.

7.    Don’t follow others blindly unless your inner voice accepts decisions

8.    Don’t consider other’s situation for certain decisions, because different people make different decisions in same situations. Closely monitor your situation and analyze points 1-4, if the benefits are higher then go ahead and if things are not showing promising, pull out the things.

9.    Have a faith on your Blink, your first reaction. For whatever decision you make, what was the first reaction came into the mind. Was it yes.. Then ask yourself why this was yes and if it was No why your first voice from inside was no.. You will get the answer.

10.    Build strength within you and make yourself 100% available mentally when you take a decision, because half hearted things never work well in long term decisions.

I have tried the tricks above and it has helped me to take certain decisions well, you may try and tell me if things work for you as well.
Take bold decisions, even if they hurt in short term, they give good long term benefits.

Positivity is the way of Life

Positivity is a magnet that attracts everyone around us. It spreads the positive signals in the environment and as a return we get the same response from people and environment. Positive people are the most influential people in the world.

What is Positive Attitude?
An attitude that throws away all negative forces and accepts positivity as a way of life is a positive attitude. An attitude that never accept failure as a lost but it accepts it as one of the way of success. A positive person never reacts on situations but acts on them.

Why should we practice positivity?
A normal human behavior is encouraging negativity, it’s very difficult to avoid a negative thought, the current media exposure is making it even worse to keep ourselves away from negativity. The negativity affects the thinking pattern and that reflects in behavior. It passes from one to other person and it takes very little time to spread in society. It can put family and society in trouble with major consequences. So it’s very important that we stop it at the beginning and take positive steps immediately.

How should we practice Positivity?
We can practice positivity in a very systematic way, just avoid the following things and you could be a positive force yourself.
1. Do not spread negative news among group. Verify if the news is genuine, even if it’s right, present to other that it doesn’t harm much.
2. Keep away from negative people, if you can change them that’s great, if you cannot, it’s good to avoid them.
3. Start a day with positive thoughts; feel like you have solution of all problems, and believe that if you cannot solve it, your god will solve it for you.
4. Smile is a good dose of positivity, spread it wherever you travel, most likely you will get a smile back from the other people.
5. Control your negative thoughts; train your conscious mind with your subconscious mind with positive thinking and positive thoughts.
6. Keep away from negative media, television serials, movies showing violence and any other form of external factor, which destroys all positive forces within you.
7. Watch positive movies, television serials, advertisements. A good dose of small positive thoughts will be enough to feed your inner soul with lot of positive energy.
8. Spread Positive news with toping of little more positive thoughts.
9. Avoid thinking what others think for you, focus on your life and make it happier because you are the epicenter of positivity.

A very good saying is “We see the world as we are”, if we are positive, the world reflects it and its true otherwise.