Buddha Quotes : Wisdom by Budha : Volume I

Budha Quotes : Wisdom by Budha : Volume I 

"All that we are is the result of what we have thought."

"If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him
If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him."

"Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared."

"Happiness follows sorrow, sorrow follows happiness, but when one no longer discriminates happiness and sorrow, a good deal and a bad deed, one is able to realize freedom."

"What you are is what you have been.What you'll be is what you do now."

"Until he has unconditional and unbiased love for all beings, man will not find peace"

"A family is a place where minds come in contact with one another. If these minds love one another, the home will be as beautiful as a flower garden. But if these minds get out of harmony with one another it is like a storm that plays havoc with the garden."

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."

"Always be mindful of the kindness and not the faults of others."

"Life is so very difficult. How can we be anything but kind."

"We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world."

"The thought manifests as the word; The word manifests as the deed; The deed develops into habit; And habit hardens into character. So watch the thought and its ways with care, And let it spring from love born out of concern for all beings."

Positive Self Talk, A friend for Life

Self talk is like an auto installed program which is installed in the computer of your Brain.
You have been using it unknowingly for many years but you never realized its good and bad uses.


So in so many terms you have never explored the potential of Self Talk.


I would like you to think over it today and experience a great benefit of Positive Self Talk.
Why Am I Saying Positive Self Talk?


Because you have been using Negative side of Self Talk more than Positive Self Talk.?


How and When?


Well every time, almost every day we have been talking to ourselves and telling us something those are not really positive words.


I won’t get parking space today :-(


I might get fined by Traffic Police :-{


I might lose this :-|


Aren’t you saying this to yourself? That’s what we call Negative Self Talk.
Such negative self talk leads to undesirable results.


But we can change our life by changing our Self Talk program.

Slowly and gently but gradually we have to convert our self talk from negative to positive.


Gentle start should be good, don’t panic and never tell yourself that you should not think negative, If you tell this to yourself “don’t think negative”.. you are increasing your panic by criticizing yourself. 


Start gentle, start slow but start steady. Just change the words that you speak to yourself.


How?


Positive Self Talk is a process of installing smaller updates to your installed program in brain 
Instead of saying “I wont get a parking space” please say “I will most likely get a parking space today” .  Keep saying this to yourself daily.


And some day that “most likely” will become “I will sure” once you have matured in positive self talk.


Positive self talk is a scientific process, telling positive things to yourself will bring positive changes in life.


Consider Self talk as a nearest and dearest friend lives with you all the time. Would you prefer to tell him/her negative words or positive words?


Of course you won’t talk negative to your nearest friend, then why not to speak positive to self?


Positive self talk is a slow and steady process, so keep saying good and positive words to yourself daily and you will notice a great positive change in your life.

Inspirational Quotes : Words of wisdom : Volume I

Let me Share some Inspirational Quotes: Words of Wisdom, they have been inspiring my life for long. I hope you will like it also.
I will share the words of wisdom in different volumes, this is Volume I.

 "Never say no when a client asks for something, even if it is the moon. You can always try, and anyhow there is plenty of time afterward to explain that it was not possible."

-- Cesar Ritz, hotelier

 "No matter what it is, pick yourself up and go on to the next project."

-- Shelley Duvall, actress

 "Don't let yesterday take up too much of today."

-- Will Rogers, humorist

 "If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere."

-- Frank A. Clark

 "Make everything as simple as possible, but not simpler."

-- Albert Einstein, Theoretical Physicist 

 "Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it."

-- Johann von Goethe 

 "Envisioning the end is enough to put the means in motion."

-- Dorothea Brande, Writer 

 "The first part of success is "Get-to-it-iveness"; the second part of success is "Stick-to-it-iveness.""

-- Orison Swett Marden, Editor, Success Magazine

 "When you dare to dream, dare to follow that dream; dare to suffer through the pain, sacrifice, self-doubts and friction from the world."

-- Laura Schlessinger, talk-show host

 "To see what is right and not do it is a lack of courage."

-- Confucius, philosopher 

I hope the words of wisdom would make difference in your life. If you want to further read how change works in life, check my post on Change Management. 

And if you have fear of Life, You should read my post regarding Fear of Life

Enjoy the life, keep watching for volume II of Words of Wisdom

Have you lost your inner Hero?

There may be a time when you are finding but not meeting your inner Hero. That is lost in dark.


What is that dark about and why has it hid your inner hero?

The dark is this

1. The lack of confidence in you.

2. A belief that made you hero is gone or decreased.

3. Your patience is at its lowest.

4. Your spirit is at its lowest. You have a Fear of Future.

5. Your moral is down.

Such dark is so strong that it will hide your heroic abilities, your best won’t come out unless you hit back to those dark characteristics of your own.

So here you are, you want to find your hero back in you and here are the tricks.

1. Ignore the critic and keep moving towards the way that you believed is right.

2. Let the time do its work, develop the patience.

3. Work hard, there is no replacement of hard work.

4. Find out where are you best at, keep doing those things again. Love Yourself.

5. Never quit, the moment you decide to move the stones and make it happen, you are already a winner.

Steve Jobs, the former CEO of Apple Inc Once said

“You have to believe in something: destiny, life, karma, whatever”

The belief is the key to find back your inner hero. If you have once thought that you will be doing something great with your life, that was a belief and you have to stick to that belief until you have done something important for you, your family, society or nation.

Interesting to Read my past blog : An Interview with Life

Hey, who are you? I am the “Change”

This is the only constant factor in our life, yes you are correct, and it’s the “Change”.
It doesn’t give a great feeling when we encounter with this great thing in life, so did it with me, here is my conversation with the change and how I did “Change Management”


Hey lazy, getup, I am here


Who? Who are you?


Well, I am yours but you never have tried to accept me?


You are mine? I have many things of mine, and who are you from?


I am within you but I live in outer aura of yours.


Oh man, don’t confuse me, tell me who are you and why the hell you are asking me to get up.
You know how comfortable I am, I love doing all what I am doing.


Ok, I understand but do you know that you are not doing what you should be?


Sorry, elaborate?


You think you are doing right but you are not?


Oh, didn’t know that? Then why were the things good to me if I was wrong.


See, you said; things were good, are they good today?


Oh.. Yes.. they are not good as they used to be.


Yes, they are not good because things have changed and you wanted me desperately.


I never called you, never asked you, then why have you appeared?


Because I knew i am the only one who can make you better than what you are.


I am better, in fact the best that I can do.. but ya.. don’t know why?


Because you are the best, you want me, adopt me and see how your best comes out from you.


Ok, let me try, what do I do now?


“Change the way you have been looking at the things” , this can make things lot easier than before.


Change the way… how does it matter?


It will Change the way of working, add little more to your daily life?


So you mean I have to work hard..?


Did I say that? Only working hard doesn’t solve your problem.


Then?


Work to the best of your capabilities and insure that you have done it right.


Look at the things and think that there is always a better way of doing this.. Isn’t that true?


Ya, true, I know what you mean. I have to change the way of working. And making sure that you are not leaving no stone unturned. Not leaving a scope of failure by putting checks at every step.


Putting a full heart towards my daily routine can really change the scenario.


Yes, exactly. Try to understand the requirement of every responsibility,
Each necessity has its own set of requirements and ways of doing,
If we extend reach of our heart and try to listen those requirements, we always can get an answer.


The answer is, getup, “this is the time to change”.


There are always two ways of living. Either you accept whatever happens to you or go and “Change” them as you wish them to be.


Choice is yours.


Oh “Change”, hug me, love me and I love you too. Let me “change the way of life”.


After this exercise  I am sure you will find the "Hero In You".

Interesting Read : An Interview with Life and Fear or Future

Loving Yourself

Isn’t it a strange topic right? We have been talking to love our work, love our parents, and love our friends…. And what is this, Love Yourself? Yes. We have been missing this very important thought for numerous occasions in life.  Let’s talk on this today.

Most of us are so good in our lives that we always victimize ourselves and keep punishing ourselves mentally (or sometimes physically), have we ever thought that we are a nice living being and we should love ourselves equally that we love others?

Making mistakes, taking decisions ( right or wrong), falling apart is always a human nature, what if the mistakes grow larger, what if decisions are proven to be wrong, what if we are not as good as our peers, is this something we should be worried about, or rather we should take an action and correct it? Choice is yours, Worrying kills and Action builds.

Lets explore some techniques and learn how to better love ourselves.

A question we ask ourselves : I wasted so many years doing this, Oh My God such an Idiot I was?Dear Brother/Sister, it was your decision to do something that you now consider as a waste, so where is the question of wasting. No time is wasted, it gives you an experience that helps in long term, build a patience in life. If you think there is a better way to do it, do it now, if you hate yourself then you will never be able to correct your mistakes.  Love yourself, accept mistakes and go ahead.

We Quastion our Ability : I don’t have a sense to judge right or wrong.

Let’s accept this as a destiny. The almighty God wants us to do something and we do it, if it happens to be wrong, we should have courage to accept that as a decision from heaven. And if there is something is possible to be correct, let’s try and correct it. If it’s not a correctable judgment, let’s learn a lesson and move ahead.

Forgive and Forget.

You have to forgive yourself for the mistakes like you do for others, forget the chapters of life that have left unpleasing experience in the life.

Balancing Act

If something happened that you didn’t want to do and it happened, try to balance it by doing something that you wanted to do and make others and yourself feel proud of it, a balancing act would always reduce the pain of unhealthy thoughts.

Shed the tears but don’t forget to laugh

Shedding tears is an act of most courageous individual if you do it for right cause. But make sure you laugh enough in a day to pay the price for those tears.  Laughing is the best gift we can give to ourselves, so let’s don’t wait for it, and gift it to you today :-)

got a minute, read Cricketing the Life

Reinventing Yourself

Reinventing Yourself

This is the exercise everyone should do at least once in a life; this would be surely a life changing experience. Reinventing yourself could open up your own self and seeing the different perspectives of the life.

First Step: Check Your Happiness Index

Have you ever asked yourself, Are you Happy?

If not, do it now. Happiness is the root of everything happens in your life.

If you are not happy, there is something wrong that needs a correction as soon as possible.

I hope you won’t blame the circumstances or the fate/destiny for your happiness.

Happiness is the way you take good and bad things in your life and how well you act on it.

No one can make you sad if you really don’t want to be.

So first and foremost thing you should do is, find what is wrong, act on it, correct it so you can improve your happiness index.

Step Two: Do what you like to do

Do you know what you like most to do? If not, please find that first :-)

Doing what you like daily/weekly/monthly would surely improve your happiness index.

If you are not doing, think what you like to do, what you liked to do in past.

You will find something you liked to do earlier but due to time/circumstances/constraints you are now unable to do.

Doing such small things might have been a reason behind your success in past and if you stop doing so, you may not taste the success in future.

Till the time I was keeping my routine playing, tv and some house hold, I could achieve good in my 10th standard, but I stopped doing that in pressure of 11th and 12th standard, I could not do wonders. A lesson learnt, do what you like to do, this will release your pressure of performance.

Step Three: Find your specialty and leverage that

Very few of us do internal analysis of us to find what we are good at. Perhaps some good friends and well-wishers tell us about our good things. We should listen to that voice that says you are good at this… and seek an opportunity in that career.

There is a difference between what I should be doing and what my specialty is. Peer pressure will ask you to do what you should be doing and your inner soul would be always pushing you towards your special god gifted inner skill.

I was writing code of software for few years of my life till I realized I am good at marketing and management. It took some time but once the realization has happened I have never looked back.

People have done wonders when they have done what they are good at.

Integrity, A Passion for Life

Ever thought of doing something really good and not waiting to get reward of it?
This is something we are going to explore in today's chapter. The Integrity.

Doing right and Doing something that is not just helping me/myself but that helps others,
that is a responsibility of a great soul. let me try to put few things forward where we can apply the great formula.

At Work ( my obvious start :-) )
Most of us know the demand of our profession, Something that we can improve but we are not approaching that.
Most of us are waiting till the next reminder comes on table. aren't we?

Sometimes we know how to make things better but we wait till we are asked to do?
let me ask you a difficult question now... Why are we waiting to be asked?

The law of integrity works in reverse direction than the above mentioned human fundamental behavior.

Do it right and do it now if it helps you, or it helps others or it helps organization.
But here comes the twist of story..... Do not do it if it was just an act of getting noticed.

An integral step towards good being is always gets noticed without saying but we got to have  patience.

Example 1 : Every organization has some process related scope of improvement.
Certain things do not require a high level permission to change things little bit and make it efficient. A responsible professional can solve it and when the time comes, he/she can take the credit.

Example 2: Stopping others to do something wrong could save the organization from major/minor loss. When there is a right time, nothing wrong to pin point that how an individual helped the company.

A Home ( I love this area :-) )
We all do what is expected from us at Home, Sometimes we don't do what is expected :-(
Do we do something that is not expected but could be a great thing for Home and Family?
Do we take initiatives to make the house hold processes little better?
If we do it, we try to look around and see if someone noticed it or not?

Most of us are very serious about what all is related to Home,
But Integrity rule is  "Do the best, Do it better than before without letting Family know that you did this, You started this first and others followed. "

Example 1 : Taking an insurance for home, takes a bit of money but could be a savior in case of disaster. ( sorry i am not selling an insurance here :-) i thought this is a good example. ) Do we wait till the senior member ask us to do or do we do it without even letting other's know it.

Example 2 : Contribution for family or household expense/investment. We can encourage others by putting major contribution from our end and let others follow. because we are integral part of family. ( this doesn't apply to a family of 2 or around but if you are younger one, you can inspire the elder with your integral actions)

At Society and Nation ( You cannot ignore this )
We forget many times that we are integral part of our society and our nation.
The routine hinders our responsible citizen living within us.
But that doesn't mean that we are allowed to go away from our responsibilities towards nation and our society.
Do we see something going wrong in society and still we ignore it, just to avoid difficulties for ourselves?
Do we see there is a scope of improvement in something routine in society and still we don't try and we think... what the hell going to change if i change today?

The law of integrity says "Change if you think it can help society, A good society build good people like you and me", we can create a platform for others by taking initiatives in society.

Example 1 : I ask people to wait in a queue if there is a heavy rush for certain things. That helps all to get things on time and with peace of mind

Example 2 : Planting trees and encouraging others to do it would be a great way of showing your integrity towards society and nation.

It's not difficult to build an Integrity but we just have to have passion for this.

An Interview with Life

I would like to present some of the glimpse of my recent interview with Life

Life : What do you expect from me?
Me : Oh a lot.

Life : Good, describe few so I can give you some.

Me : Three things at least, 1. Price 2. Popularity 3. Peace

Life : great, So how soon you want the Price ( Money )?

Me : hmm very smart, As soon as possible?

Life : Ok and then, who and how will you use it?

Me : simple, will spend, save and make more money for me and family?

Life : And then?

Me : then what? I will soon become popular because of my money?

Life : So you believe money can make you popular? Have you heard about Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi, Sardar Vallabh bhai patel, George Washington, Thomas Alva Edison?

Me : Yes great personalities. They are remembered now and forever.

Life : Yes Me too remember them because they lived the best of the life ever, I asked the same question from them that I asked you and the answer was different.

Me : Hmm so you have been asking this question  to all, well what was their answer?

Life: will tell you later, so what next after popularity?

Me : Oh nice question, I will be a Happy person, I will get Peace then after.
Life : I don’t think so, remember Lady Diana ( wife of prince Charles, wasn’t she popular ) and how she died in lack of peace in life? Gurudutt ( the great indian actor), Meena Kumari ( great indian actress) All of them had money and popularity but they didn’t had peace in life.

Me : Oh my god and I thought money and popularity can give me a peace in life.

Life : No my child, that is wrong perception.

Me : Then what should I do to get the peace?

Life : You know the answer, peace is within you and in your activities.

Me: But what do I do to get the peace? I Don’t understand

Life: Ok let me ask you simple thing? Have you ever served water to some one ? How do you feel then?

Me: I feel good to give but giving is the peace?

Life: Nope the joy of giving and doing something for someone is peace and doing an act that could benefit a group of living being is peace.

Me: So I should do social service? Then when should I care for my family?

Life: Your family will ask only what you give them, if you give less they expect less if you give more, they expect more. Now it up to you that you are giving more money to them or giving more happiness to them. Try to give them both and see where they are happy. With money or with moments of happiness?
Exercise: Take family to a super mall, do lot of shopping, then eat in expensive cuisine, watch movie in expensive theater, come back home and keep a note of level of happiness.

Then next time take them to a simple park or just a peaceful place, talk a lot about good old days, take their opinion on past and future, plan something for future together ( after retirement life etc ) and then note the level of happiness. Make sure you do it free flow without planning anything, just let the moment go by and you and family can enjoy it.

No need to tell me where you found the more happiness.. You know the answer.
Me : Hmm will try this, probably I know what you mean.

Life: I have given meaning to everyone’s life, there is a purpose behind living, when you know it then we might not have to schedule interview again.

Me : But one last thing, shouldn’t I earn money then?

Life : You can but create a wealth where everyone benefits. Remember God has made you capable to earn the money because there are various who are not fortunate to earn like you do.
Anyway, thanks for your time, God Bless You.