Develop a Sense of urgency

A Successful person is the one who has shown a sense of urgency in life. You cannot be a successful person if you wait for things to happen rather than trying to make them happen for you.


Certain things in life never come back if they are lost once, like an opportunity could be once in life time, if we don’t grab it, it’s lost forever. It’s essential to develop a sense of urgency to grab every opportunity in life before it’s too late to grab it.

A sense of urgency starts as soon as we start our day. If we have to turn up at work at 10:00 AM we cannot afford to get up late and then giving reasons to self and others for the late coming.


I would like to link this with professionalism, a good professional finishes his task on or before time so that he can feel a sense of completion than waiting for a long. Few very good people could develop a casual approach towards their tasks, here comes the delay and guess what; the task is more than double on very next moment because it was not done on time. Why do we do this? Why do we invite an evil while we could be an angel?


Now the question is why we should develop a sense of urgency.
1. A sense of urgency in task always avoids an emergency. We all know how difficult it is to handle an emergency. Not all of us are mentally capable to handle emergency.


2. It gives a peace of mind once we finish things on time or before time.


3. It allows us to do more in less time, because the task1 was done before time, let’s take task 2.. or 3 and finish that also. The more we do the better will be an experience and knowledge.


4. A timely completion leaves lot of time to spend on hobbies or any other liking.


5. Above all a true performer is recognized only after his great sense of urgency. People who delay are considered as sick areas of the institutions.


Do not wait till last moment to finish things you have on table, its like if you wait for a last ball of last over ( in cricket) so you can hit a winning shot, you may lose a game. Or if you wait for a penalty shot, you may not have enough to win a game (in soccer).

People Management and Relations

Good and healthy relations can pay off for life time, it’s like planting a tree that gives short term and long term benefits at different stages of life.

We should value our relations with nears and dears, friends, colleagues, neighbors, vendors and clients. a relation once spoiled could be a loss of opportunity like cutting a tree which could have served us for life long.

We all almost know how to maintain relations but sometimes some behavioral oversight causes us a crack in relations, I would like to advice few of following tips that could help us build and maintain relations, it could be used by the leaders to manage people.

1.” Put yourself in other’s shoes “, this could solve many of the problems you have with others. Try to understand the other person, his background and his situation when he/she misbehaved with you. He might have been annoyed by situation, he might not be aware when he misbehaved. Try to understand the situation at other end, communicate with the person and try to find the fact than a fault. This would help you retain the relations.

2. “Ignorance is the slow poison for relations”, try not to ignore people or they will start ignoring you J. We start ignoring people for many reasons, sometimes we are busy a lot that we don’t care about others, sometimes intentionally we ignore because we believe we are better than others, under any case that leads to spoil a relation, we tend to lose a friend, a colleague, a client, a vendor who could have significantly contributed in our growth.

3. “Control the aggression or aggression will control you”, it’s good to be aggressive but for relations its all reverse, it’s always good to express compassion in relations than aggression. We should not do a conversation that could make us feel sorry about ourselves. Build courage to listen to an advice, a real truth about ourselves or take blame positively. If someone is communicating to us with our entire fault, a hidden truth about us or my inability to tackle a situation then it’s all what he/she thinks about us, and possible it could be a reflection of my behavior with that individual.

4. “Don’t wait to say Sorry or it will be too late to say that”, apology will surely put you in different stage in relations. Being an human, we are bound to make mistakes, but we always have chances to fill the gaps but our apologetic behavior. Express your caring feeling and the other person will be willing to go to any extent to retain relations with you.

“We have never seen the God and Might never see it in remaining life but God sends his agents around us in the form of relations to help us in difficult situations”

Take the pain and maximize the gain

The most difficult phase of life gives the best lessons of living; hard lessons could not be learned without facing the obstacles. Probably that is the reason there are few successful people, very few by luck and most of them are by virtue of taking lot of pain and sustaining it till they are successful.

Why should you take the pain? Life could be lived easier and in a most comfortable state. What is the need of thinking a lot and taking actions on it?
There is a need; because you wanted to be uncommon, you wanted to be focused and you wanted to get all what others could not. Why not?

What does it mean by taking a pain? Who should take it?
Taking a pain is doing something extra that others didn’t, thinking something more which others could not, working little hard which was avoided by others. Challenging your own abilities and overcoming the conditioning is also as good as taking a pain. It should taken by someone who wants to come out of the crowd.

What is something extra? Can’t it be just smart work?
Something extra could be related to hunger of learning more in less time, experimenting something new while still working on the routine. Believing in your own abilities and taking more responsibility than others is also called taking more pain. Smart workers can do it even better but smart work is not a synonym of hard work. While smart work can always lessen the amount of work, hard work gives an inner happiness of accomplishing something.

What is the gain? When should you expect it?
The gain could be a visible change in your living standard, your designation at job, a change of social status or an invisible gain like sustaining power in difficulties. A top level executive, A top level politician, a top level sports person or a spiritual guru could be seen as the gainers, they are those who have taken a pain of working harder than others, thinking different than others, caring more than others and surpassing all obstacles due to their higher experience in relative domains. The timing of gain may vary from a day to a year to a decade or more depending on your area of expertise and amount of pain you have taken. The more pain you take it, the more gain you get it, the more early you take a pain, the faster could be the result.

Example 1 : You are a marketer, you want to clinch a deal, so you are working on presentation, the day is over but presentation is not, you have taken a pain of leaving your sleep behind and completed the presentation, guess what? You made a good presentation and success comes to you, even if this deal is not worked out, you have an exception material which could be used for many other presentations.
You could have made excuses to your boss saying it was late night and your wife was not well so presentation was not over…..no pain and no gain…

Example 2 : You are an office executive, you are taking more responsibilities, due to that you leave office late, you are becoming the point of criticism because not all stay late, not all are taking more responsibilities. So what, if you are ok to take a pain, you get a bigger gain directly or indirectly, by getting recognition in the organization, a designation, and opportunity of learning more in less time and above all you become a close aid of management. You can escape all this pain saying all lot of stories, I have a family, I have friends, I stay too far, I am not healthy… no pain and no gain.


Exercise for you : Go out and find the people who have gained more, study their life and their past, note down t heir pains and compare their current gains. Have a great life ahead.

The Power of Positive Visualization

Have you tried seeing your future well before it happens? Not yet? Try today.
I would like to describe today a great power of Visualization, it’s an art or it’s an effort to see something happening with open eyes which we want to see in future. Someone would call it Day Dreaming, but very few of us understand the Power of Day Dreaming.
Visualization gives us the glimpse of future, we should always tend to see good and positive things in future, and that gives us happiness today. We can use that visualization as a power to make the dreams into reality… don’t know how? Read as follows.

How to Visualize?
By this time we have realized that we should have some goal, we should have some dream to achieve in life, now take this exercise.
1. Think that you have achieved your Goal Today, See yourself in the position you want to be in future.
2. See very specific, the specific place, specific people, specific objects, environment and all.
3. See it like you are really dreaming, but this time with open eyes.
4. Keep yourself in that dream for a longer, because you are conscious this time, you can think and drive yourself around that dream.
5. Repeat this exercise frequently, daily or weekly whenever you get some time, spend in dreaming. That will make your dream stronger and you will get lot of energy to achieve them.

Example 1: You want to go to USA for work or any other place, you wanted to do it since long, but now do the above exercises, Feel like you are in America, see the Airplane landing on American land, see the foreigners around you, see the wide roads, polished cars, tall buildings. See yourself in a black suit, with a laptop (your brand) , talking in fluent English to colleague, eating burgers from McDonalds …. Be there for few more minutes…

Example 2 : You want to own a big bungalow, with a nice foreign made car, one for you, one for your wife/husband, one for kids, a wide garden with green lawn, probably a nice breed pet, some servants in white uniform, a driver for your car, security guards at the entrance of your house, yourself in a good expensive clothes with hubby loving you and all family members smiling.
In above two examples I have explained how you should visualize, be specific and dream with open eyes and drive yourself as close as you want it to be.

How does it help?
Some research has proved that positive visualization has given results better than expected. We have accepted that everything is possible but you have to give a right shape to your thinking power. So if you think right, you will see things happening to you as the way you wanted them. If they are not working that way, you must have not visualized it well in past.

Do not afraid of dreaming.
Never ever afraid of dreaming, it’s a virtue to human being to dream and god has given a purpose to it. If we dream well and specific, things will happen to us same way. Positive thinkers, Positive dreamers have positive results.

A story of my mother
My mother always dreamt of well being of me and my brother, she was not healthy but she was saying that I will die only after I see you brothers settled in life with at least one kid to each of you. She always wished to die before my father because she loved him a lot and then she said she will not die in hospital, she wanted to die such a way that it happens immediately to her ( a quick death) without suffering in hospital. Guess What happened to her?

She died with all above things happened to her, we brothers were settled with 1 kid each to us, my father was still alive and she died with heart attack that killed her in few minutes without hospitalization. So whatever she thought that happened to her, she might have visualized this all years back.

Different people have different goals, different dreams, different way of living life but dreaming it before they happens is important, then only it will really happen someday.

Cancer patients are given this treatment, so they can self medicate.

Differently able candidates know this theory very well and they win gold medals.

Jim carry ( the hero of movie The Mask) dreamt of a 1 Million dollar pay check for his movie when he was a struggler, he made it one day, now we all know him well.

Good luck, keep dreaming in a day time ( not for full day :-) )

Nothing is wasted...Specially the Hard Work

Let me start with an important incident happened with Thomas Alva Edison, someone asked Mr. Edison that what did he gained by 23 trials of making an Electric Bulb, wasn’t it a waste of time for you? He deliberately said, No! it was not waste of time, Now I know there are 23 ways by which a Bulb Cannot be made. … Interesting Answer….Right...?

A positive note is that no effort is a waste, all efforts transforms to some lesson.

Few people are natural hard workers and never wait for results before their second effort, while some of us (I should say more of us) are looking for return on investment like a stock market. But life is not a stock market where return on investment is faster.

A popular and respected religious book Bhagwat Geeta in Hindu religion which is said to be gifted by Shri Krishna, it has clearly indicated that Do the Karma first (your task, your duties), don’t worry for results. If you worry for results, you will never do your Karma well.

I have heard people saying “Why should I Work More If I don’t get Results faster…”, true but believe me the results are not coming in a physical form or in a visible form always. The work done (hard work precisely) has following invisible results which are overlooked by many of us.

1. An experience of various things that could not be experienced without hard work

2. A knowledge of many of new technologies, people, processes that could have not been learned

3. A Perfection in our routine work, a faster work capability which cannot be gained by average worker

4. A chance of winning confidence of people around us, all of us like hard working people, why not you?

5. Above all, a capability and Brave heart to run things on our own without anyone’s help.

None of the above results are physically visible or neither of them could be achieved in a day or two, but if they are achieved, the physically benefits also come slowly but surely. In opposite to that, if physical benefits are received fast, the above given benefits have lesser chances of entering into your life.

Whenever someone works hard, he is the receiver of Direct Benefits, others get indirect benefits.
So a statement saying "Why should i give benefit to other, That's waste of my efforts" is possibly wrong, because the other person is indirect beneficiary, so the other person's gain is less anyway. If someone doesn't work hard just because other may gain it will possible harm himself than other.


Let me tell you the reality in society. I might get some criticism against that, I am prepared for it.

Big Corporate employ young Graduates from High Profile Universities. Why? Some of you would say because they want to grow their Business? True in one sense but here is the truth.
Big Corporate knows that those graduates have tremendous capabilities, if they join small companies, they will make those small into big companies and that will increase competition of corporate.

Rather they give fatty package to High university graduates and ask them to work for them in closed offices with amenities like Ac, mobiles, Bungalow, luxury trips etc.
So as a result, the person becomes addicted to that, doesn’t have to work for long hrs to get those all.

So end of the day we have a person with all Physical things but he will always lack the above 5 benefits. In absence of such 5, he will be always depended on big corporate and never be on his own.

Such physical things give a lot to your body but your soul will not be satisfied unless you do what you want to do in life.

In Small companies, People work hard, at small cost, they learn above 5 and probably more. So they become prepared to face any situation in life. In short their hard work is not wasted. The soul is satisfied, the body is tired and you get a good sleep in night.

One more example, A son of Rich person cannot fit a screw because he has never done it but a son of poor person can fit a whole machine because the hardship of his life teaches him do all his own. A son of Rich has high chances of becoming poor in absence of experience while Son of Poor has full chance of being a Rich one day because of his experience…..

Decide who is the winner in Life.. No need to answer Now.. We all know it …
have a great life ahead :-)

Put lot of hard work and it won’t be wasted at all.