Sunday, November 29, 2009

The secret key of good communication

How you present yourself to others is more important than just being a specialist human being. You express yourself to the world by the medium of communication. Let’s don’t relate the communication to a specific language but knowledge of a language (especially English) is more important to be a good communicating personality.

Let’s put up some points here that differentiate you from others as a good communicator.

1. Break the silence: Believe me the silence could kill you virtually if you don’t speak, if you don’t present yourself, the world will never know what you are? Why are you there and what you want to accomplish. So please speak up with people, manager, colleague, coworker, friends because you need to make people feel your presence.

2. Respond to the questions: Sometimes a casual approach could cause a damage to your career. If you missed responding an email could cause you an increment in job, a promotion, a much desired position you always wanted or a much wanted sales lead you wanted to close. Every question thrown towards you should be replied, otherwise the questioning person will think either you are not capable or you are not interested in the opportunity he is willing to give you.

3. Stick to the point: It’s very important that you stay on track when you talk. A good communicator is not allowed to discuss about everything in the world but only the topic he started to discus. Always find the motive of discussion and take the first priority point first to discus. Do not drive yours or other person’s attention to anything else but the objective of discussion.

4. Repeat the important things: If you started to talk about something called “Topic 1”, you may have to repeat it for couple of times. The reason is if it’s a long discussion, sometimes the listener forgets the original point, so you have to remind the listener that we started with “Topic 1”, that makes your communication focused and fruitful.

5. Be Yourself : You should express "what you are" not that  "what you are not." its easy to catch a manipulation.

My personal experience has made me believe that most successful people are always good communicating people. The one having excellent skills and no communication faces a competition if he/she doesn’t communicate well.

Speak up and make the world feel your presence.

Sunday, November 15, 2009

Positivity is the way of Life

Positivity is a magnet that attracts everyone around us. It spreads the positive signals in the environment and as a return we get the same response from people and environment. Positive people are the most influential people in the world.

What is Positive Attitude?
An attitude that throws away all negative forces and accepts positivity as a way of life is a positive attitude. An attitude that never accept failure as a lost but it accepts it as one of the way of success. A positive person never reacts on situations but acts on them.

Why should we practice positivity?
A normal human behavior is encouraging negativity, it’s very difficult to avoid a negative thought, the current media exposure is making it even worse to keep ourselves away from negativity. The negativity affects the thinking pattern and that reflects in behavior. It passes from one to other person and it takes very little time to spread in society. It can put family and society in trouble with major consequences. So it’s very important that we stop it at the beginning and take positive steps immediately.

How should we practice Positivity?
We can practice positivity in a very systematic way, just avoid the following things and you could be a positive force yourself.
1. Do not spread negative news among group. Verify if the news is genuine, even if it’s right, present to other that it doesn’t harm much.
2. Keep away from negative people, if you can change them that’s great, if you cannot, it’s good to avoid them.
3. Start a day with positive thoughts; feel like you have solution of all problems, and believe that if you cannot solve it, your god will solve it for you.
4. Smile is a good dose of positivity, spread it wherever you travel, most likely you will get a smile back from the other people.
5. Control your negative thoughts; train your conscious mind with your subconscious mind with positive thinking and positive thoughts.
6. Keep away from negative media, television serials, movies showing violence and any other form of external factor, which destroys all positive forces within you.
7. Watch positive movies, television serials, advertisements. A good dose of small positive thoughts will be enough to feed your inner soul with lot of positive energy.
8. Spread Positive news with toping of little more positive thoughts.
9. Avoid thinking what others think for you, focus on your life and make it happier because you are the epicenter of positivity.

A very good saying is “We see the world as we are”, if we are positive, the world reflects it and its true otherwise.