Take the pain and maximize the gain

The most difficult phase of life gives the best lessons of living; hard lessons could not be learned without facing the obstacles. Probably that is the reason there are few successful people, very few by luck and most of them are by virtue of taking lot of pain and sustaining it till they are successful.

Why should you take the pain? Life could be lived easier and in a most comfortable state. What is the need of thinking a lot and taking actions on it?
There is a need; because you wanted to be uncommon, you wanted to be focused and you wanted to get all what others could not. Why not?

What does it mean by taking a pain? Who should take it?
Taking a pain is doing something extra that others didn’t, thinking something more which others could not, working little hard which was avoided by others. Challenging your own abilities and overcoming the conditioning is also as good as taking a pain. It should taken by someone who wants to come out of the crowd.

What is something extra? Can’t it be just smart work?
Something extra could be related to hunger of learning more in less time, experimenting something new while still working on the routine. Believing in your own abilities and taking more responsibility than others is also called taking more pain. Smart workers can do it even better but smart work is not a synonym of hard work. While smart work can always lessen the amount of work, hard work gives an inner happiness of accomplishing something.

What is the gain? When should you expect it?
The gain could be a visible change in your living standard, your designation at job, a change of social status or an invisible gain like sustaining power in difficulties. A top level executive, A top level politician, a top level sports person or a spiritual guru could be seen as the gainers, they are those who have taken a pain of working harder than others, thinking different than others, caring more than others and surpassing all obstacles due to their higher experience in relative domains. The timing of gain may vary from a day to a year to a decade or more depending on your area of expertise and amount of pain you have taken. The more pain you take it, the more gain you get it, the more early you take a pain, the faster could be the result.

Example 1 : You are a marketer, you want to clinch a deal, so you are working on presentation, the day is over but presentation is not, you have taken a pain of leaving your sleep behind and completed the presentation, guess what? You made a good presentation and success comes to you, even if this deal is not worked out, you have an exception material which could be used for many other presentations.
You could have made excuses to your boss saying it was late night and your wife was not well so presentation was not over…..no pain and no gain…

Example 2 : You are an office executive, you are taking more responsibilities, due to that you leave office late, you are becoming the point of criticism because not all stay late, not all are taking more responsibilities. So what, if you are ok to take a pain, you get a bigger gain directly or indirectly, by getting recognition in the organization, a designation, and opportunity of learning more in less time and above all you become a close aid of management. You can escape all this pain saying all lot of stories, I have a family, I have friends, I stay too far, I am not healthy… no pain and no gain.


Exercise for you : Go out and find the people who have gained more, study their life and their past, note down t heir pains and compare their current gains. Have a great life ahead.

The Power of Positive Visualization

Have you tried seeing your future well before it happens? Not yet? Try today.
I would like to describe today a great power of Visualization, it’s an art or it’s an effort to see something happening with open eyes which we want to see in future. Someone would call it Day Dreaming, but very few of us understand the Power of Day Dreaming.
Visualization gives us the glimpse of future, we should always tend to see good and positive things in future, and that gives us happiness today. We can use that visualization as a power to make the dreams into reality… don’t know how? Read as follows.

How to Visualize?
By this time we have realized that we should have some goal, we should have some dream to achieve in life, now take this exercise.
1. Think that you have achieved your Goal Today, See yourself in the position you want to be in future.
2. See very specific, the specific place, specific people, specific objects, environment and all.
3. See it like you are really dreaming, but this time with open eyes.
4. Keep yourself in that dream for a longer, because you are conscious this time, you can think and drive yourself around that dream.
5. Repeat this exercise frequently, daily or weekly whenever you get some time, spend in dreaming. That will make your dream stronger and you will get lot of energy to achieve them.

Example 1: You want to go to USA for work or any other place, you wanted to do it since long, but now do the above exercises, Feel like you are in America, see the Airplane landing on American land, see the foreigners around you, see the wide roads, polished cars, tall buildings. See yourself in a black suit, with a laptop (your brand) , talking in fluent English to colleague, eating burgers from McDonalds …. Be there for few more minutes…

Example 2 : You want to own a big bungalow, with a nice foreign made car, one for you, one for your wife/husband, one for kids, a wide garden with green lawn, probably a nice breed pet, some servants in white uniform, a driver for your car, security guards at the entrance of your house, yourself in a good expensive clothes with hubby loving you and all family members smiling.
In above two examples I have explained how you should visualize, be specific and dream with open eyes and drive yourself as close as you want it to be.

How does it help?
Some research has proved that positive visualization has given results better than expected. We have accepted that everything is possible but you have to give a right shape to your thinking power. So if you think right, you will see things happening to you as the way you wanted them. If they are not working that way, you must have not visualized it well in past.

Do not afraid of dreaming.
Never ever afraid of dreaming, it’s a virtue to human being to dream and god has given a purpose to it. If we dream well and specific, things will happen to us same way. Positive thinkers, Positive dreamers have positive results.

A story of my mother
My mother always dreamt of well being of me and my brother, she was not healthy but she was saying that I will die only after I see you brothers settled in life with at least one kid to each of you. She always wished to die before my father because she loved him a lot and then she said she will not die in hospital, she wanted to die such a way that it happens immediately to her ( a quick death) without suffering in hospital. Guess What happened to her?

She died with all above things happened to her, we brothers were settled with 1 kid each to us, my father was still alive and she died with heart attack that killed her in few minutes without hospitalization. So whatever she thought that happened to her, she might have visualized this all years back.

Different people have different goals, different dreams, different way of living life but dreaming it before they happens is important, then only it will really happen someday.

Cancer patients are given this treatment, so they can self medicate.

Differently able candidates know this theory very well and they win gold medals.

Jim carry ( the hero of movie The Mask) dreamt of a 1 Million dollar pay check for his movie when he was a struggler, he made it one day, now we all know him well.

Good luck, keep dreaming in a day time ( not for full day :-) )

Nothing is wasted...Specially the Hard Work

Let me start with an important incident happened with Thomas Alva Edison, someone asked Mr. Edison that what did he gained by 23 trials of making an Electric Bulb, wasn’t it a waste of time for you? He deliberately said, No! it was not waste of time, Now I know there are 23 ways by which a Bulb Cannot be made. … Interesting Answer….Right...?

A positive note is that no effort is a waste, all efforts transforms to some lesson.

Few people are natural hard workers and never wait for results before their second effort, while some of us (I should say more of us) are looking for return on investment like a stock market. But life is not a stock market where return on investment is faster.

A popular and respected religious book Bhagwat Geeta in Hindu religion which is said to be gifted by Shri Krishna, it has clearly indicated that Do the Karma first (your task, your duties), don’t worry for results. If you worry for results, you will never do your Karma well.

I have heard people saying “Why should I Work More If I don’t get Results faster…”, true but believe me the results are not coming in a physical form or in a visible form always. The work done (hard work precisely) has following invisible results which are overlooked by many of us.

1. An experience of various things that could not be experienced without hard work

2. A knowledge of many of new technologies, people, processes that could have not been learned

3. A Perfection in our routine work, a faster work capability which cannot be gained by average worker

4. A chance of winning confidence of people around us, all of us like hard working people, why not you?

5. Above all, a capability and Brave heart to run things on our own without anyone’s help.

None of the above results are physically visible or neither of them could be achieved in a day or two, but if they are achieved, the physically benefits also come slowly but surely. In opposite to that, if physical benefits are received fast, the above given benefits have lesser chances of entering into your life.

Whenever someone works hard, he is the receiver of Direct Benefits, others get indirect benefits.
So a statement saying "Why should i give benefit to other, That's waste of my efforts" is possibly wrong, because the other person is indirect beneficiary, so the other person's gain is less anyway. If someone doesn't work hard just because other may gain it will possible harm himself than other.


Let me tell you the reality in society. I might get some criticism against that, I am prepared for it.

Big Corporate employ young Graduates from High Profile Universities. Why? Some of you would say because they want to grow their Business? True in one sense but here is the truth.
Big Corporate knows that those graduates have tremendous capabilities, if they join small companies, they will make those small into big companies and that will increase competition of corporate.

Rather they give fatty package to High university graduates and ask them to work for them in closed offices with amenities like Ac, mobiles, Bungalow, luxury trips etc.
So as a result, the person becomes addicted to that, doesn’t have to work for long hrs to get those all.

So end of the day we have a person with all Physical things but he will always lack the above 5 benefits. In absence of such 5, he will be always depended on big corporate and never be on his own.

Such physical things give a lot to your body but your soul will not be satisfied unless you do what you want to do in life.

In Small companies, People work hard, at small cost, they learn above 5 and probably more. So they become prepared to face any situation in life. In short their hard work is not wasted. The soul is satisfied, the body is tired and you get a good sleep in night.

One more example, A son of Rich person cannot fit a screw because he has never done it but a son of poor person can fit a whole machine because the hardship of his life teaches him do all his own. A son of Rich has high chances of becoming poor in absence of experience while Son of Poor has full chance of being a Rich one day because of his experience…..

Decide who is the winner in Life.. No need to answer Now.. We all know it …
have a great life ahead :-)

Put lot of hard work and it won’t be wasted at all.

Asking right questions

Do you know assumption is a killer of relations? Expectations are always difficult to fulfill unless they are clearly defined.

When we are in relation with someone (friend, father, mother, wife, siblings, kids, clients…) we start assuming something and that increase the level of expectations from receiving person. Now here is the catch, the other person if having his very strong (6^th) sense to find your expectations, he will surely meet expectations but if that is not the case (most likely) then you face a clash or frustration towards the individual. If this happens couple of times, then god only is the savior, especially when it’s the relation of love, marriage or friendship. (People cannot break blood relationship very often but other than that all relations are open for breakage)

Question comes to the mind; did we set the expectation right? Did we inform the person in advance that we are expecting this much in this time duration? If no then sorry but we were the epicenter of this entire clash that could be major if we don’t control at the beginning.

A theory of asking right question can save lot of damage. By asking a right question especially at right time is as good as pioneering a success in relations. DO NOT HASITATE TO ASK QUESTION, NO MATTER HOW STUPID IS THAT : - )

A stupid question is much better to ask then replying intelligently without objective.

Asking questions not only saves relations but it builds a base for long terms success and peace of mind. The questions could be from either end, if you are the person who wants someone to do something for you, better to ask now that “my dear, I am expecting this from you, do you think you can? When? If not why?” . It might sound illogical (certain cultures doesn’t permit it also ) if such questions are asked in blood relations but I believe it’s high time to be open in relations, no matter how close they are. Because at least you are reducing chances of hurting someone unknowingly.

You could be at receiving end, you are a son of father, brother or husband, better to ask “Can you tell me something that how we can make our relations better, What shall I do that can make you happy? Did I hurt you sometime in past?”. Try this;
Believe me you will come across something really shocking, you will know if that person was hurt some day by you or what you are doing wrong with that person.

So next step, improve and keep asking the questions.

Talking about business relations, the key to retain clients, Ask questions.
Now a days clients are not sitting close to you, you cannot just drive and reach them, so relation with them has become crucial. They asked you some project work or some product, expected a lot, you didn’t knew it and here is the clash.

Interview the client, ask them what do they expect, do they have any deadline for this? And then set expectation right, Only if you are capable to finish , tell them yes you will sure try it and if you are not, better say no.

How good are you?

How Good Area you?
When we are living a common life and busy in day to day activities, we really don’t know our value of existence. We really don’t know how precious we are to various people around us. I would like to make an effort to make you realize how good you are, that would surely make you feel special.

How good are you At Home
do you know when you are not at home, there are various eyes waiting for you to come back? Your wife, your kids, your parents, your neighbors (sometimes :-)).
If you are good to your family & friends, being calm and suggestive, helpful to them, you are favorite to them. Not only that, your family is known with your name due to your reputation. People outside call your family with your name… “oh this is Mr. X’s family, oh such a nice person Mr. X is”… “oh Mr. X made his family so strong financially…I wish I could have a son/brother/husband like him…”
Your nature of helping others and achieving fortune created a whole new environment and new name for your family….
is this true for you? Have you created such environment? Hopefully yes and if not, I am sure you will do it soon.


How good are you At Work?
sometimes we feel, Can me alone do anything for my work place? The answer is yes, one individual can do a lot than a group. Your presence at work place creates an environment and an image of your company. Your feeling about the company not only motivates you but plenty of people around you. Not only around you but people outside, clients, vendors and associates could be inspired. When you work hard, your employer is benefitted by one or other way, he makes money, if not money then a reputation, if not reputation then by earning a new client.
Your approach, your attitude towards work, your professionalism can create positivity in environment. People outside when they see you, would say… “Hey this must be a good company because Mr. X works for this company”…. “Oh that company where Mr. X works, we would love to do business with them”…. These could be the possible comments given by people outside. So see how important you are for the company you work…. The whole impression of the company, the whole business of the company is dependent on you and I am sure you know this well.
So when you come to the work place, feel like most valued personality and Work like a most responsible person.

How good are you In Society?
How healthy you are? How clean you keep outside your home? How often you help a child to cross the road or how often you offer a lift to elderly people? Have you helped a new comer in the city? All above applies to your personality. Your city, your neighborhood is rated based on your own behavior and attitude towards life. A one good help to neighbor can make the whole family or society make feel proud. .. “Oh this is a great neighborhood, great apartment, I wish if I could get a Flat in this area”… why would people say that.. Because they might have experienced your attitude when you were helping someone… “Oh such a clean city is this, I will visit again…”... Because you kept your neighborhood clean, the outside would love to visit it again.
So dear Mr.X, be a responsible citizen, love your place, love your work place and love your family. Give them the maximum you can because YOU CAN MAKE THE DIFFERENCE